We have a lot of opportunities in life and undoubtedly lose some and win some of them. This means our being is about trying and that is what makes our life meaningful. Shame is a feeling that we experience when we are conditioned to think that we are inferior to something or some other entity. This inferiority will make us feel shameful. Now this shame can be given to us by others or we can take it voluntarily because of our previous preconditions. Undoubtedly shame is not a pleasant experience, we need to free ourselves from shame, we can free ourselves only when we first of all realise that we are not special, we are beings that make mistakes, that lie, that fail. Acknowledging this imperfection allows us to see imperfection in others too. When this happens then we can move to the second step which is to realise that we are stronger than we think we are, this step provides us with stamina to not doubt our being. The next step is to acknowledge ourselves and our being, it is to know that we exist and there are other aspects to our lives. And the last step is to know that shame is external from us, and it doesn’t have anything to do with us as beings. By doing this we realise that after all society can be cruel and unjust, however we have our self liberty and rights that we need to respect and cherish separate from unjust world.
Daily we have a lot of challenges we face. We may even feel like why we do what we do and doubt ourself. At any point making effort to overcome our challenges, is what makes a difference. Therefore even so things are far from perfect, as long as we try, we can improve ourselves and the environment. This improvement is not to reach perfection, but to reach a state of control. This is because perfection imprisons us of being in state of utopia. This state does not exist, what exists is us and the world being in interaction to move and grow. That is what we can control, and when we realise this then we are in control. We try, we fail and we get better and this cycle continues. Shame is about us not doing something that we are capable of doing. Therefore feeling ashamed as a result of this inaction. When this happens we need to know that this does not define us, and we need to keep on trying. Therefore shame can be used as a tool for improvement and making a difference in our life and others life.