We cannot be good at everything, even if we try. There are vast number of subjects and topics in this world. What is the right subject for us? This is a question that many of us may ask ourselves. We may be pragmatic and learn subjects that help us make money and have more security in life. If these pragmatic subjects are our passions then we can count ourselves very lucky. However luck is something that is dependant on us and how we go about life.
By taking luck into account, we may want to do something that is not very pragmatic and there is less chance of financial gain. Are these subjects worth doing? This is a very important question, since life is not about changes that impact us, life is about how we change ourselves and therefore our impact changing environment around us. Therefore whether we are pragmatic in our outlook or we go after something more abstract in nature, we need to be careful. Careful that life is not just about going after our heart or mind!! life is also about doing the right thing for ourselves with self compassion in life.
Topics we need need to learn in life are not just some academic subjects, they are also life lessons. We need to be open to the idea that we make mistakes, we fail and we learn our lessons and move forward. If we don’t fail we are not moving. Therefore our skill in life is a combination of life lessons with subject knowledges, and challenges in life. We need to live and part of living is being pragmatic, part of it is following our dream and part of it is failing. This is our skill for life.
We may want to strive for perfection, we may try our very best but is this possible, is this achievable? definitely not. We need to know that making mistakes and being comfortable to make mistakes is an skill at its own right. Not fearing mistake can help us know that we are set to achieve our potential regardless of our failures as long as we try. Therefore when things get tough, when you make mistakes, when you don’t know what to do, take a deep breathe and be easy on yourself, you deserve it. Self respect, self compassion and self worth is one of the greatest skills we can gain in our life.
There is also skill of letting go, letting go of our knowledge, letting go of our abilities, letting go of our prejudices, our negative thoughts, our self limiting belief. This is a very important skill, as it helps us stay grounded and to be flexible to find out more about ourselves and our abilities. To let go of any limiting knowledge or belief and replace them with more up to date and new ones. While along the way checking on our values and updating them.
Certain skills for life our innate within us, we have them, such as our temperaments, and our characteristics. And some skills in life our cultivated. We create them, we cultivate them, we add to them and we enhance them. Skills are learned behaviours, these are what we consciously or unconsciously learn from our environment. However the extent we learn is dependent on many factors such as our thoughts, mood, biology, health as well as our beliefs. Therefore gaining new skills is not just about our interaction with our environment, it is also about our interaction with ourselves as well as our world views.
We change, our world view changes, our life changes, and so does our future. We need to be aware of these changes and learn to adapt ourselves with life. Our skills for life is not a set of skills, it is about being certain of uncertainty. It is about knowing that our life changes and so does our skills. We are in constant battle with life and need to try and improve ourselves in order to catch up and face what challenges life brings. Therefore being flexible and open to change is a must skill for life.
One of the most important skills for life is knowledge of letting go, letting go of our mistakes, letting go of unwanted thoughts, letting go of unwanted feelings, letting go of unwanted memories. And lastly letting go of control. Skill of letting go, is one of the most important skills we can have, it is a skill that enables us to be aware and to know as long as our rights are not being questioned or taken from us, as long as we are not being overlooked, bullied, or that there no harm to us and others, then letting go and not controlling situations are very beneficial to our energy, to our future and also puts things into perspective for us.
In regards to our skills, some skills we work hard for, and we get benefits from them. Some skills are innate and we cultivate them. Some skills are given to us in our interaction with the environment. No matter how we know a skill, we need to take the middle knowledge. A knowledge that is both tangible and it is not tangible. A knowledge that flows and also it is rigid. A knowledge that is changeable with time. Indeed this requires a person that changes with time. A person that makes connections, that creates new possibilities and skill. A person that has skill for life, like a kid curious to find next chapter and next skill in life.