We have our lives to experience new events and to gain a better understanding. Environment impacts us greatly. It effects our thoughts, feelings and decisions. We need to learn to not let our deluded self make decisions for us. This means that we have a self that is product of the society (Parents, friends, and those around us), as well as a self that is product of our wishful thinking.
We need to separate ourselves from the self that is not beneficial to us. We need to exercise our choice. Our wishes are our desires and no matter what we do they will manifest themselves.
Overall our life is dependant on our relations and our wishes. This is because our wishes are partly result of our environment and so are our relations. Therefore we need to optimise our interaction with the environment in order to fulfil our desires.