We do something shameful that makes us feel ashamed. We hurt others in our life sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally by being in contact with others. When we are truly sorry and do not repeat the same mistake, then we begin to forgive ourselves. It is not easy to forgive ourself when we are in pain. We need to know that when it comes to ourselves, forgiving means to give ourselves room for improvement, it means that we need to be easy on ourselves. Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves for no particular reason. The point is that no matter what the act is, it has happened in the past and what is important is the here and now, we need to know this fact that we only have present and that is what counts.
Forgiving doesn’t mean committing to a certain way of thinking. When it comes to other people, forgiving is part of the process. By seeing people as on our side we begin to bring people closer to ourselves and make connections. By forgiving someone for their wrong doing it doesn’t mean we commit ourselves to be the same as before with them, it only means that we are prepared to move onto our own path, it means that we are prepared to see others as they are and to focus on our path in life. This is beneficial because by no moving on we hurt ourselves. Therefore by forgiving we can liberate ourselves, we can have a realisation that even though we maybe hurt by others but still we see them and accept them as they are, we try to be beneficial to others, and at the same time we focus on our own life meaning, in the here and now of our life. This is to move on and make educated decisions, this is to prioritise ourselves, and yet to be part of the larger community and make connections. To commit ourselves to make certain decisions about a person and situation, is to give away our power over our decision making, therefore by forgiving we are able to free ourselves of any chain that may hold our thoughts and feelings.
There is a reason for forgiving others being beneficial and that is to release ourselves from unwanted energy. By forgiving we don’t need to commit ourselves to be the same within that circumstance. Instead it means we have given ourselves benefit of being free from hurt or fear, and being open to new life events. This is to focus on what we want to happen to our life in here and now, it is to focus on the process and see where it takes us. This is by committing ourselves to make better and more contemplated decision, a decision that helps us to have meaning in the moment and to feel beneficial towards our community.