We need balance in life to enhance our living. But how do we create this balance? We may try different behaviours, different characters, different courses, different friends, different places, different people, different jobs, different outlooks, and in general, lots of exploring in life, but still no sign of finding balance!
These attempts to find balance may make us selfish, proud, friendly, angry, clever, respectful, prudent and the list goes on. However still we may not find balance. All these exploring seems to have a pattern though as we try them we get better at dealing with and accepting them.
We may feel lost and look for answers in our search to find balance. There is no perfect answer when we search for balance. It is our imperfect personality accompanied with our imperfect life, and our quest in searching for balance.
Now the goal is to construct our life in a way that results in a more balanced state. We have certain patterns that we follow in our life. These are our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. By looking at these imperfect patterns we can create balance in our life as long as we learn from them and apply them correctly to our present situations.
To learn from the past is to replace it with a more realistic and useful pattern in our life. This is possible as long as we love and care for ourselves and then others. So by caring for ourselves we can be realistic about our present situation, in ways that our relations will be shaped in a more useful way. By doing this we can find a more balanced life, a life where we see injustice, we see unfairness and we are still fair towards ourselves and others. This can be achieved as long as we are also curious about ourselves and want to discover more about ourselves.
In order not to regret our past life we need to learn from mistakes and to teach what we have learned where possible. It is a sense of community is what helps us cultivate a more balanced life, this is by belonging, not to others but to the connection we make to ourselves and others. This helps us in maintaining our balance in life and enhances our life quality. We need to change our outlook in life in order to get different results. Therefore to create and maintain balance in life we need to be flexible. We need to appreciate change and maintain a healthy and curious outlook in life. Love and care of ourselves and guiding others to do the same will help us retain our balance.