Don’t speak of anger
This is what anger is
It feeds on itself
With more and more intensity
Captures all our thoughts
Leaves out our reason
It takes all our strengths
And leaves us in prison
Break the cycle and free yourself
Be one with who you are
Don’t pay attention to shortcomes
Be one with your presence
Anger has multiple heads
It can be unpredictable
Yet when tamed it is useful
Use it as a drive to overcome
Overcome your difficulties
This energy needs direction
It needs to be free from worry
It needs clear commands
Take control of your anger
And take back your life
We sway away from our direction
As and when anger knocks
So treat yourself to a cup of tea
And be one with yourself
Identify the source of anger
And be present with alternatives
All you have to say is
Move away from my path
I am driving my life
And I create my own destiny.
This is a complicated emotion, this emotion is a drive, it can be used as a positive energy to achieve our goals and to be goal driven. Sometimes if it is intense, it needs to be channelled towards useful direction. It needs to be acknowledged and understood.1
Anger is important when we are releasing past uncertainties and times that our boundaries are crossed. Some think that anger needs to be disciplined and controlled. While it is important to be angry consciously and not to let anger take a driving sit in our life, we also need to ensure that we express ourselves and our needs. There are various ways to express our anger, such as talking, creatively or through humour. Anger can be used as a fuel for change, and to advocate our rights. There are many types of anger, such as passive anger (sarcasm or withdrawal), aggressive anger (hostile and harmful) and assertive anger which is respectful and focused.
Ways to regulate anger help us understand that we can use anger and monitor our anger as a healthy emotion that we experience. For example, we can do physical activity, or journaling to monitor ourselves. Anger signals that something is wrong and needs to be addressed. It can help us with our self understanding and can drive positive change. Therefore needs to be controlled or channelled towards a more beneficial endeavour.
Awareness is key to anger, such as physical and mental signs. Once there is anger awareness then we can recognise when anger is building. Anger masks deeper emotions such as fear, shame or frustration therefore recognising the signs and triggers are important. Once recognised then healthy expressions of the anger is important, such as using calm manner and focusing on the behaviour while not blaming others. Using empathetic responses, resting and focusing on constructive thought patterns also helps with anger regulation and living a healthy life.